pt. 2 scenarios where i can find the perfect socially conscious white guy. like its not going to happen any time soon! and i am not so obsessed with white men that i have to go out of my way to find a white guy that will treat me like a decent human being. i mean, perhaps if i did find one then maybe. but its not likely, you know? i just hate how people are so brainwashed into thinking that white males are the best and are so shocked that i dont agree.
I understand. People seem to think that the basis for the spectrum of attraction for POC works the same way as it does for white people and white society. Women of color have a history of being continuously abused and exploited by white men, turned into fetishes/exotic sex objects. If you are someone who has experienced this racism before, or merely been exposed to the mainstream media, which glorifies white men and eurocentric beauty standards as the epitome of what is to be desired in a significant other it is perfectly normal to have developed in aversion to dating white guys.
And instead of trying to understand your side of things, people will think you’re a “reverse racist” and that those guys “just have a preference,” when their preference is a damaging imperialist generalization of an entire race of people. People will view your choices as inferior and try and force you into “seeing the light” and date a white man. However, when white guys say that they would never want to date a certain race, based on racist generalizations and act all entitled as if all women of color are out there for them to sample, it’s dismissed/accepted.
Also, even if you did find a white guy who you liked and felt happy with, white people would criticize you again ( MOC often times as well) for worshipping white guys when in reality you just found someone you just really had a strong connection with.
No matter what, it seems like the world will always shit on you for making decisions that are right for you. I just want you to know that you shouldn’t listen to those assholes and date whomever you please, know that the feelings you have about what triggers you are completely valid even if white supremacist society tells you otherwise!